I write this to you on the last day of 2018, but by the time you read this I can officially say:
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
I hope you had a wonderful holiday season with your loved ones, and that you feel refreshed as we enter 2019!
What this post is about:
One of the best things I did in 2018 was start off with very clear goals. The next best thing I did was announce them so I had some accountability. I posted a synopsis of those goals to my personal Instagram account. Here is what I posted:
Why should you read this?
We can all learn from each other’s triumphs and failures. Living intentionally is how we grow. Living transparently is how we inspire.
I summarized my 2018 goals into 4 categories below on the left. I also added some of my 2019 goals on the right. I have way more than 4 goals for 2019, but these are what I will share publicly.
Less Electronics (2018) and Present Parenting (2019)
Last year we cut out as much electronic time as possible.
We turn our phones face down and keep them on silent when we were spending time with people. Our TV stays off, unless it is playing music, until Lani & Libby go to bed. When we do watch TV, we actually watch it together, instead of both being on our devices and tuned out.
What’s new for 2019?
As you know, I started a website in 2018. It can be pretty tempting to focus on getting those “perfect” pictures and documenting everything. I have already started this habit and plan on continuing it in 2019: Present Parenting.
If you want to take pictures, take the first 2-5 minutes of an activity to snap several pictures. After that, put your phone or camera away.
Enjoy the moment. LIVE in the present, not for the future sharing of your memories. View experiences with your eyes, instead of through a screen.
My daughters smile so much brighter when they see my face looking back at them, instead of a camera pointing their direction. Our children and spouses crave our eye contact.
Read More…for real
In 2018, I didn’t give up on my Bible reading plan. Did I finish it yet? No. However, I didn’t quit and I am determined to finish strong. I guess I can throw myself some pretend bonus points for effort, but the real blessing has been in the peace I have experienced from reading scriptures every day.
What I completely failed to do was read more books in 2018. I am working on that now, and anyone is welcome to keep my accountable. Ask me what I am reading and suggest books to add to my list!
Here is my current read (which you can preorder now!):
I am SO thankful that I decided to commit to my own health in 2018. I challenged myself, and I stepped out of my comfort zone. I wrote about my transformation already, but here is the link in case you missed it!
In 2019 I plan on continuing to invest in my own health. Not for some “perfect” ideal, but for the non-scale victories. I love having the energy to run after my toddlers all day, workout during their nap time, and still dance in the kitchen with my husband after dinner.
I am still doing Beachbody on Demand (I do not sell it) 5-6 times a week. I just started the LIIFT 4 program, and I plan on doing long walks or family dance parties on my “off days.”
Cutting Toxic Ties & Embracing Peace
This category could be a post all on its own, which it will be in the future. For now, I will be concise:
When my husband and I became parents it changed everything. We put up with a certain level of abuse “for the sake of keeping the peace” for many years.
When we had children, we quickly realized that their innocence was worth guarding. We refuse to sacrifice their own safety (physically AND emotionally) to please others or “avoid drama.”
Setting boundaries isn’t easy, but it is WORTH IT. My husband and I have never felt more peace.
Intention meets Accountability
So there you have it…those are just some of my goals for 2019. Next year I will read this post and reflect on what I did and did not accomplish. I will ask myself questions like:
What did my children see more often: my eyes, or my camera?
What books did I read to invest in my mind, my character, and my growth?
Did I embrace peace more, or did I let other’s rob me of my joy? How much did I gossip?
Did I model balance, confidence, and embrace my own skin? Or, did I shrink back in photos or by a mirror?
BONUS SECTION: OTHER GOALS WE MET IN 2018:
- Career advancement for the hubs (He LOVES his new job!)
- Cross-country move (Texas to Washington)
- Live somewhere that our health can blossom (Libby and I have had zero asthma issues since moving!)
- Establish The GH (featured on EllenNation and LoveWhatMatters)
- Pay off all NICU and hospital bills
- Plan a vacation (Coming September of this year!)
- Lastly, but most important: Provide any and all extra care our daughters need and take one day at a time. Embracing every victory, and staying rooted in gratitude.
Hospital life and Hypotonia: when the NICU follows you home…
How about you? What are some of your goals for 2019? What questions will YOU ask yourself?
Let’s be intentional and accountable. Together.